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Monday, April 12th, 2010Self-bullying perfectionism can suck the joy out of success and ruin our lives. It’s one of the worst forms of negative self-talk. We know that harassing, abusive, inner voice that focuses only on what we didn’t do perfectly according to some old standard that was shoved down our throats when we were children. It has [...]
Recession-Stimulated Bullying and Abusive Self-Talk at Work
Thursday, May 7th, 2009During economic ice ages or recessions, when times get hard, hardness tends to run rampant. Most people are justifiably afraid they’ll lose their jobs and the lives they planned. Will they get laid off or downsized through no fault of their own? What will happen to their savings, insurance, college and retirement funds? Will they [...]
Recession-induced fear and stress stimulate self-bullying
Tuesday, March 3rd, 2009Mostpeople are afraid of the economic forecast. Some have lost jobs; more will. Some have lost retirement funds; more will. Some have lost hope; more will. Fear and stress stimulate mostpeople to huddle around the campfire, worrying, whining and complaining about their uncertain future. They convince themselves that they’re too weak and helpless to succeed. [...]
Stop bullying cliques at work
Tuesday, February 24th, 2009In the last post, we analyzed the tactics bullying cliques typically use and 10 common reasons why people form or join hostile, predatory cliques at work. Both men and women form and join cliques, even through their tactics are often different. These predators verbally, sexually and physically harass and abuse both men and women. They [...]
A narcissistic, stealth bullying boyfriend justifies his internet porn
Tuesday, February 10th, 2009Julie (late 30’s) had been living with Harry (also late 30’s) for 6 months when she discovered that he often snuck off to his computer room in the middle of the night to look at internet porn. They both have good jobs and Julie says the sex is good, so what’s with Harry? Harry says [...]
7 Signs of narcissistic control-freaks
Thursday, February 5th, 2009Narcissistic control-freaks rule! They think. Some narcissistic personalities are so over the top that it’s easy to detect them. You’ll follow your gut reaction and get away as fast as you can. But watch out. If you’re not careful, stealthy narcissists will take over your life – at home, in relationships, at work. Are you [...]
When women derail other women in the office
Friday, January 30th, 2009In her article in the Wall Street Journal, “When women derail other women in the office,” Rachel Emma Silverman comments on Peggy Klaus’ article in the New York Times, “A Sisterhood of Workplace Infighting.” Both discuss an estimate that female office bullies who commit verbal abuse, sabotage performance or hurt relationships, aim at other women [...]
How to stop a controlling boyfriend
Thursday, January 29th, 2009Sometimes, even experienced people don’t recognize control-freaks until they’re in a relationship so far that they have to fight fiercely to get free. Madge was divorced, without children and had established a good career. She’d purchased a house she loved and had a wide circle of professional and personal friends who admired and respected her [...]
Top 10 ways bullies disrupt meetings
Friday, January 23rd, 2009For years I’ve watched bullies disrupt professional meetings and create hostile workplaces. It’s bad enough when team members dominate meetings, but it’s always worse if it’s the boss who’s a control freak. Here are the top 10 tactics I’ve seen them use. What situations and actions irritate and frustrate you most?
Case Study: Dealing with a righteous, angry, bullying friend
Wednesday, January 21st, 2009Dana thought her new friend Tracy had a strong personality. Tracy always knew what was right and knew how she deserved to be treated. She could always justify why her standards were the right ones. If anyone didn’t live up to Tracy’s rules and logic, she let them have it. She was even right when [...]
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