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Wednesday, December 28th, 2011Inefficient technology and operational systems can suck the energy out of a company. Bottomless-pit projects are interminable, yielding few benefits from more effort thrown at them. They’re the subjects of fruitless, time-wasting meetings. But fixing them is child’s play compared to stopping the human “vampires” who suck the energy out of those around them at [...]
Stop Bullying by Personal “Dementors”
Sunday, December 25th, 2011The Harry Potter series has given us many vivid and compelling images. One of my favorites is the “Dementors.” Bullies can act like Dementors. They can torment us and suck the joy out of any wonderful moment or out of our plans for a wonderful future. Some people also have personal, inner Dementors that suck [...]
My staff doesn’t care: What’s the problem? Is it me?
Wednesday, December 21st, 2011Honest self-evaluation and course correction are key traits of great leaders, managers and employees. For example, suppose you complain that almost everyone in your department or organization is turned off and tuned out. Are they all just a bunch of self-indulgent, narcissistic, lazy slackers or a rotten generation – or have you failed somehow?
Can Fear and Anger Help Stop Bullies?
Sunday, December 18th, 2011Some people think that fear and anger are always bad. Some people think that fear and anger can’t help stop bullies. I disagree.
Don’t let continually cranky co-workers ruin your day
Wednesday, December 14th, 2011Friendly, upbeat, helpful co-workers can ease the burden of difficult, stressful projects. But what can you do about chronically cranky co-workers who make you wish for a snow day or a hurricane? Joe is one of these toxic bullies. He’s the scourge of his office. It’s hard to tell if he’s unaware of his co-workers’ [...]
To Stop Bullies You Must Protest and Say, “NO!”
Monday, December 12th, 2011One of the typical tactics of sly, sneaky, stealthy, manipulative bullies is to work in the dark; to not be seen to be bullies. Then, when a light is shined on their abusive behavior, they claim that they were just having fun; that they were just kidding around; that they didn’t know their target was [...]
Can You Resolve Feelings With a Bullying Father Before He Dies?
Sunday, December 4th, 2011Joan’s father had bullied and abused her all her life. He’d yelled, scolded, chastised, taunted and emotionally terrorized her. He’d been manipulative, sneaky and lying. He never admitted anything was his fault. He’d always blamed on her; everything was her fault. He still treats her the same way. He’s a narcissistic, control freak. Joan could [...]
Should You Stop Bullies if You Feel Vindictive, Resentful?
Sunday, November 27th, 2011Amy was raised to be a nice girl. She had learned not to act if she felt angry or if she sensed any resentful or vindictive feelings within her. When she held back because her motives weren’t pure enough, she became easy prey for her bullying brother.
Well-Meaning, Meddling ‘Peacemakers’ can Disrupt Your Workplace
Wednesday, November 23rd, 2011You want the people on your team to get along with one another and to work well together. But beware of self-appointed middle-men or peace makers. They actually promote whining and complaining, and lead your team to wallow in emotional turmoil and dissention. For example, Carl felt it was his job as a “people person” [...]
Do Our Teenagers Have a Right to Privacy?
Sunday, November 20th, 2011I attended a wonderful presentation on cyberbullying and sexting by an officer from a local police department. The question came up about spying on our teenagers’ phones and computers: “Do our teenagers have a right to privacy?” That was followed by the question: “If we spy on our teens, how can they consider us friends? [...]
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