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Wednesday, February 1st, 2012If you have a “leaper” and a “stepper” on your staff who are at war with one another, you have a big problem that needs immediate attention. Leapers are people with fast biological clocks. Steppers approach the world slowly and cautiously. Their very different views of the world can lead to disastrous results if they’re [...]
To Stop Bullies, Should Kids Ever Fight Back?
Sunday, January 29th, 2012Jane’s 5 year-old daughter, Jenny, had been tormented for months by a bully in her class. Even though the bullying girl was the same size as Jenny, she repeated took whatever Jenny was playing with, shoved Jenny down repeatedly and often pulled her clothes and hair. Jane had told her daughter that physical violence was [...]
Managers must be decisive in handling problems
Wednesday, January 25th, 2012Good managers don’t clean up messes caused by their staffs. They prevent messes from happening. Carl, head of a division, finally had to fix the problems in a department run by a senior manager, Brenda. He transferred one supervisor and three high-ranking staff members to other departments. He was satisfied: once again, he showed that [...]
To Stop Bullies: Don’t Give in to Fear, Despair, Defeat
Sunday, January 22nd, 2012Stopping bullies, whether overt, covert or cyberbullying, and especially stopping self-bullying, requires time, effort, courage, determination and perseverance – grit. It’s easy to lose heart along the way, but we must not give into fear, discouragement, despair, defeat, loss of hope or depression. We must not listen to negative self-talk, or give in to the [...]
Snitches, vendettas hurt productivity
Wednesday, January 18th, 2012It’s easy to dislike stalkers and snitches with personal vendettas. But you can’t fire them just because they’re relentless, stir up conflict and waste your time and energy, can you? Most of us dislike snitches. And there are rules and laws against stalking someone in the workplace. But if you’re a manager, someone who tells [...]
Do Private Apologies Mean Bullying Will Stop?
Sunday, January 15th, 2012Sometimes, bullies come to us and apologize in private for their behavior and promise that they won’t do it again. Does that mean that the harassment, abuse and bullying will stop?
Members of Whiners’ Club definitely bad for business
Wednesday, January 11th, 2012With one exception, workplace cliques are bad for business. If you allow them to operate behind the scenes, they’ll destroy morale, teamwork and productivity. Yet, as the economy continues in a recession, people’s fear and stress will lead them to band together to find comfort and scapegoats. We usually recognize cliques that use bullying tactics [...]
Stop Angry Obsessing; Start Acting Effectively
Sunday, January 8th, 2012Cindy was up again at 2 AM, infuriated at her mother and her older sister. They were so mean and cruel. What they’d said and done hurt so much. It was like she was a child again, subjected to their verbal beatings. The more she thought of what they had done, the angrier she became. [...]
Beware meeting saboteurs who can derail effectiveness
Wednesday, January 4th, 2012Marie couldn’t run a productive meeting. Even after leadership training to fix the problem, her teams’ meetings lost focus, ran way over their scheduled times and repeatedly became time-wasters. She couldn’t see why she had these problems. She’d prepared ahead, the meetings had agendas, she solicited input and she always sought consensus. So what was [...]
Stop Bullies Who Know-It-All about Cancer
Monday, January 2nd, 2012Our beloved four-year-old granddaughter has cancer. She finished surgery and is in radiation-chemotherapy mode. They say there’s a good chance she’ll live long and prosper. We grasp that life preserver and try not to cry all the time while we go about fulfilling other responsibilities. Thank you for that gasp and intake of breath. All [...]
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