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You can care too much about winning your parents’ approval

Monday, April 28th, 2008

My last post was about adults who carry to their graves the wounding and scars they got from their parents.  These adults never grow up mentally, emotionally and spiritually.  They never leave their parents’ mental and emotional homes, even if they leave physically.
While watching the John Adams mini-series, I saw a classic example.

Dieting? Quitting smoking or stopping drinking? Whose advice should you trust?

Friday, April 18th, 2008

Are you dieting?  Have you noticed that everyone has advice about the best ways to stop?  The advice-givers also think they know best for people who are trying to quit smoking or stop drinking.
For example, Tammy is dieting again.  She’s tried losing weight before, even succeeded, but has always gained it back.  This time she’s […]

The 9 Circles of Trust

Monday, April 14th, 2008

Whether you’re thinking of personal relationships or the workplace or you’re teaching your children, how can you know who to trust?
Some people think that it’s morally and spiritually advanced to start by trusting everyone.  You’re somehow a bad person if you don’t trust people.  After all, you get what you put out.  Other people say […]

What can you do if the new bosses want to fire you?

Monday, April 7th, 2008

I received a number of confidential responses to my blog post on “Top ten ways to create a hostile workplace.”  One theme in many responses was about the question: “What should I do if leadership has changed and the new bosses want me gone so they can bring in their own people?”
That’s a situation I’ve […]

Stop the bully in the next cubicle

Tuesday, March 25th, 2008

What do you do if the person in the next cubicle constantly gives you the silent treatment, glares, ignores your requests for information, makes belittling comments in meetings, puts you down in public, spreads false gossip about you, takes credit for what you did, accuses you falsely of making mistakes, tries to rally other people […]

Repeated bullying tolerated by school officials

Monday, March 24th, 2008

What would you do if you were the principal of a school in which a boy’s brother records on his cell phone camera the boy getting out of the car, walking up to an unsuspecting Billy Wolfe waiting at a bus stop, punching him hard enough to leave a fist-size welt on his forehead and […]

Stop verbal abuse by a know-it-all boss

Wednesday, March 19th, 2008

Iris’s manager knows everything.  He bullies Iris and her co-workers by being right and righteous; he’s sarcastic and demeaning.  He destroys teamwork by his constant criticism.  There’s never a word of praise, only correction and put-downs delivered in a haughty voice.  Every sentence starts with an unspoken, “Well, stupid, you should know …” or an […]

Stop bullying and torture at school

Tuesday, March 11th, 2008

A recent article by Gina Burgess, “Bullying is torture at school,” brought home some extreme examples harassment, hazing, bullying and torture.  But even more, there was a wonderful example of how to stop bullies in their tracks.
I agree with the methods used in the school.

How to correct your children and say “No” to them

Sunday, March 9th, 2008

Recently, I’ve seen articles and heard parents saying that since words can hurt, we shouldn’t deny our children what they want or ever say, “No” to them.  They think that if we deny them or say “No”, we’ll damage their confidence and self esteem.  But if we give them continual praise and approval, we’ll help them […]

How do you know if someone is your friend?

Friday, February 29th, 2008

Dana is a seven-year old with a good heart.  In order to help a new girl, Amanda, break into her school, Dana befriends her.  She talks to the girl, hangs out with her on the playground and even has her mother arrange play-dates.  Dana is cheerful and popular, and her efforts are successful.  Other children […]

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