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Wednesday, December 7th, 2011‘Drama Queens’ and their male counterparts may look like they’re responding quickly – rallying the troops, taking charge and solving problems. But they cause more chaos at work and create more fallout than the problems they’re reacting to. Don’t be fooled by their high energy and don’t promote them. Drama Queens come in many forms. [...]
Eliminate the High Cost of Low Attitudes at Work
Wednesday, November 30th, 2011Might you have a serious problem in your team, department or whole organization? Are good employees protected from bullies, negative complainers, toxic coworkers, subtle manipulators, nitpicking control freaks, rule-floggers, gossips, passive-aggressive stalkers, energy vampires, meeting disruptors, demanders, meddlers, micromanagers, critics, conflict-avoidant managers, “professional victims,” Drama Queens, or jerks? Are you wasting your time and effort [...]
Should You Stop Bullies if You Feel Vindictive, Resentful?
Sunday, November 27th, 2011Amy was raised to be a nice girl. She had learned not to act if she felt angry or if she sensed any resentful or vindictive feelings within her. When she held back because her motives weren’t pure enough, she became easy prey for her bullying brother.
How to deal with the smiling, stealth office bully
Wednesday, November 16th, 2011Overt bullies easily get our attention. And we know exactly what we’re up against when they attack. Stealth bullies, who stab you in the back in public with a friendly smile and a laugh designed to disguise their attack as a joke, are much tougher to deal with. In fact, it took a lot of [...]
Micromanagers just don’t know when to let up
Wednesday, November 9th, 2011Harry defended himself by saying that he was following rules he’d heard in training: to increase teamwork, bring people together often; review production in your group often so you can keep people on track; give immediate feedback in public so everyone can learn from one person’s mistakes. But Harry is a micromanager. Instead of making [...]
What to do if you’re stuck with bully for boss
Wednesday, November 2nd, 2011What do you do if you end up with the boss from hell? Someone like Char – critical and nasty to everyone, an equal opportunity bully. She shot down whoever got in her sights. But she never went after people face-to-face. So, no one had the opportunity to question her or to present their side [...]
Stop Bullies: Make Some People Uncomfortable, Upset, Angry
Sunday, October 30th, 2011Many children are raised with a set of rules such as: “Don’t make anyone uncomfortable. Don’t hurt people’s feelings. Don’t upset anyone. Don’t be disagreeable. Don’t argue. Be polite. Be nice. Follow the Golden Rule. Make everyone like you.” But those are not effective rules for adults in the real-world. Of course, we know why [...]
Micromanagement is a Double-Edged Sword
Wednesday, October 26th, 2011We all know micromanagers whose control makes staff feel like their productivity, creativity and desire for responsibility is being strangled. But the other way micromanaging kills is when a competent manager is suffocated by too many employees who do need micromanaging to be productive. And then there are the sneaky slackers and covert bullies. The [...]
Change a Culture of Entitlement in the Workplace
Wednesday, October 19th, 2011How’s this for a challenging assignment: You’re the new manager of a 14-person team that’s been together four years. During your first two days with the team, nine people come to you one-to-one and complain vehemently about two team members, Laura and Frances. They’re angry: Laura and Frances come in late, leave early, ignore assignments [...]
Stop Bullies Who Scold, Chastise
Sunday, October 16th, 2011Most people think that if they made a mistake, broke the rules, weren’t good at something or did something wrong they deserve what they get. So they accept being scolded, chastised and browbeaten. This attitude is so common that we have many words and expressions for these put-downs and abuse. For example, admonished, assailed, assaulted, [...]
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