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Sunday, November 15th, 2009An article by Hillary Stout in the New York Times, “For Some Parents, Shouting is the New Spanking,” focuses on the damage to children done by parents’ shouting and, therefore, the need for parents to control their tempers.
Although I agree that a steady diet of shouting and bullying isn’t a good way for well-meaning, devoted […]
Effective Laws can Stop Cyber Bullying, Harassment and Abuse
Tuesday, October 27th, 2009Missouri has responded effectively to cyber bullying via web sites and text messaging; has your state?
After the Lori Drew case in Missouri, in which a MySpace account was used to bully 13-year old Megan Meier, who committed suicide, Missouri legislators passed laws criminalizing cyber-bullying, harassment and abuse, and schools created zero-tolerance policies. School authorities and […]
If Demi Lovato and Miley Cyrus can be bullied, how can your daughter stop school bullies?
Sunday, October 11th, 2009As reported in the Huffington Post, to focus attention on National Bullying Prevention Awareness Week, Disney star Demi Lovato has gone public. She was bullied so much in school that she and her parents chose to do home schooling rather than face the bullies at school. Her story follows Miley Cyrus telling of being bullied, […]
Stop Bullies: Will Knowing Why Bullies Keep Abusing Us Help Us Stop Them?
Sunday, October 4th, 2009One of the questions I’m most often asked is, “Why Do Bullies Keep Abusing Us?”
I hear that from:
Kids who want to stop bullies and cvber bullies at school.
Adults who want to stop bullying in their love lives or in relationships with their siblings, parents and friends.
Adults who don’t understand why their teenagers are so demanding, […]
How to Raise a Bullying Teenager: Don’t Stop Their Temper Tantrums
Wednesday, September 16th, 2009The Wall Street Journal had a story on “The rich rolling in armored splendor in Brazil.” The part I want to emphasize was about a 19 year-old girl who insisted that she have a pink VW Beetle armored. She wouldn’t settle for another color or another car, like an Audi. Her father said, that safety […]
Stop Cyber Bullies: Vague Cyber bullying Laws Aren’t Effective
Sunday, September 13th, 2009According to an editorial in the New York Times, “Vague Cyberbullying Law,” “Lori Drew acted grotesquely if, as prosecutors charged, she went online and bullied her daughter’s classmate, a 13-year-old girl who ended up committing suicide. A federal court was right, however, to throw out her misdemeanor convictions recently. The crimes she was found guilty […]
Stop School Bullies: The Number One Risk Factor is Well-Meaning Parents
Monday, August 24th, 2009Current statistics show that bullying is prevalent – over 50% of kids report being bullied or observing bullying. Bullying by girls is just as prevalent as by boys (although they often use different tactics) and bullying in “good” neighborhoods is just as prevalent as in “bad” ones.
Most parents want to understand why bullies bully, “Is […]
Appeasement Won’t Stop Real-World Bullies
Friday, August 14th, 2009Some people believe fervently, passionately and whole-heartedly that if you love bullies, if you give them what they want, if you’re kind enough, then you’ll melt their hearts, they’ll come to their senses and they’ll stop bullying. Sometimes, rarely, that does work.
But the wisdom of both history and the world’s great literature tells you that […]
The Golden Rule Doesn’t Stop Real-World Bullies
Monday, August 3rd, 2009In his article in the Costco Connections, “Stop Hassling Me: Breaking the Cycle of Bullying,” Steve Fisher quotes Psychologist Izzy Kalman as saying:
“School anti-bullying programs don’t work.”
“I hate referring to kids as bullies.”
“Be nice to kids when they’re mean to you and before long they will stop being mean. This is known as the Golden […]
Lori Drew Acquitted by Judge in Cyber Bullying Suicide Case
Thursday, July 16th, 2009On July 2, a federal judge overturned guilty verdicts rendered by the jury against Lori Drew, 50, who was accused of participating in a cyber bullying scheme against 13-year-old Megan Meier, who later committed suicide.
This case demonstrates why we need federal laws to stop cyber bullying, harassment and abuse.