Bullies at Home
« Previous EntriesYou can care too much about winning your parents’ approval
Monday, April 28th, 2008My last post was about adults who carry to their graves the wounding and scars they got from their parents. These adults never grow up mentally, emotionally and spiritually. They never leave their parents’ mental and emotional homes, even if they leave physically.
While watching the John Adams mini-series, I saw a classic example.
Getting over parents who wound their children: the 2nd stage of growing up and leaving home
Friday, April 25th, 2008Obviously there are great parents. And there are children who repeatedly wound their parents. But let’s focus on parents who repeatedly wounded their children … and still continue to bully and control them even after the children have become adults.
Whether that’s done consciously and intentionally, or the parents are righteous and oblivious to the effects […]
Dieting? Quitting smoking or stopping drinking? Whose advice should you trust?
Friday, April 18th, 2008Are you dieting? Have you noticed that everyone has advice about the best ways to stop? The advice-givers also think they know best for people who are trying to quit smoking or stop drinking.
For example, Tammy is dieting again. She’s tried losing weight before, even succeeded, but has always gained it back. This time she’s […]
The 9 Circles of Trust
Monday, April 14th, 2008Whether you’re thinking of personal relationships or the workplace or you’re teaching your children, how can you know who to trust?
Some people think that it’s morally and spiritually advanced to start by trusting everyone. You’re somehow a bad person if you don’t trust people. After all, you get what you put out. Other people say […]
How to correct your children and say “No” to them
Sunday, March 9th, 2008Recently, I’ve seen articles and heard parents saying that since words can hurt, we shouldn’t deny our children what they want or ever say, “No” to them. They think that if we deny them or say “No”, we’ll damage their confidence and self esteem. But if we give them continual praise and approval, we’ll help them […]
How do you know if someone is your friend?
Friday, February 29th, 2008Dana is a seven-year old with a good heart. In order to help a new girl, Amanda, break into her school, Dana befriends her. She talks to the girl, hangs out with her on the playground and even has her mother arrange play-dates. Dana is cheerful and popular, and her efforts are successful. Other children […]
Teenage student harassed, bullied and beaten, but none of the adults at school protected him.
Wednesday, February 20th, 2008According to numerous reports, a teenager was bullied at West Middle School in metro Denver. The boy had pencils, markers and a calculator taken; he was called fat; he was called “gay” because he was involved in musical theater; because he was from musical theater, he was called a “Nazi.” Eventually, he tried fighting back […]
Teach children and teens to be resilient; don’t be defeated by disappointment, hostility, abuse, trauma or bullies.
Sunday, February 17th, 2008Are your children and teens resilient? Do they bounce back after they’ve been disappointed or faced hostility, bullies, abuse or trauma? Are you resilient? Do you know how to resist a hostile, abusive, controlling or bullying husband or wife? Can you resist your self-bullying tendencies? How about abusive, controlling or bullying friends, relatives or neighbors? […]
Top 12 Warning Signs of Controlling Husbands
Friday, February 8th, 2008What are the warning signs of controlling husbands? Here’s my list of the top dozen. Do you have any to add?
Teaching children to stop bullies at school
Tuesday, February 5th, 2008A recent article in the Wall Street Journal described a new “craze” to teach students not to become bullies. In “Learning by Cooing: Empathy Lessons From Little Tykes,” the Journal described the method used by a school in a Seattle suburb, among other schools, that puts 6 month old babies in front of children from […]
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