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Stop Bullying by Toxic, Adult Children

Thursday, July 1st, 2010

Stopping bullying by toxic parents and grandparents is only one side of the coin.  The other side is to stop bullying of parents by adult children who are toxic users and abusers.
I’ll focus on the adult children who:

Make poor decisions and try bully their parents to bail them out time after time.
Still yell at or […]

Stop Bullying Queen Bees in Your Neighborhood

Tuesday, June 1st, 2010

In summer the “Queen Bees” come out in force.  Every neighborhood has at least one.
For example, Jill was jealous of Mary.  All the other women in the neighborhood liked Mary.  Her home was always open; she always had treats; her kids are fun and shared their toys and games.  The nicer Mary was, the more […]

Stop Emotional Bullies: Drama Queens

Tuesday, May 25th, 2010

Some bullies use their strong emotions to become the center of attention, take control and coerce or manipulate other people to give in and do what the emotional bully wants.
Children throwing fits are practicing and learning if that tactic works.  Adult masters of emotional bullying are effective with spouses, partners, friends, extended families and at […]

Stop Bullying, Toxic Stepmoms before They Ruin Your Life

Monday, March 15th, 2010

Just as the predatory stepfather has become a cliché, the wicked, greedy stepmother and the colluding father have also become an archetype because so many times the characterization is accurate.  So what can you do when your father marries a grasping, bullying, uncaring woman when you’re young?  How can you stop such a bully when […]

Don’t let Toxic Step-Fathers and Colluding Mothers Keep Abusing You

Thursday, March 4th, 2010

Toxic step-fathers and step-mothers are clichés because they’re all too common.  But the ubiquity of harassment, bullying and verbal, sexual and physical abuse doesn’t diminish the pain and long-term damage inflicted on defenseless kids.
Of course, kids can also treat their step-parents cruelly, and step-mothers and biological parents can also be relentlessly cruel, but let’s focus […]

Stop Bullies: Recognize Governor Sanford’s Abusive Behavior

Tuesday, February 23rd, 2010

In her New York Times book review, “Facing Scandal, Keeping Faith,” Janet Maslin describes Jenny Sanford’s new book, “Staying True.”
Jenny, wife of South Carolina Governor Mark Sanford, notes many typical warning signs of stealthy, manipulative, controlling bullies when she describes her husband’s behavior in their early marriage arrangements, and during the public unraveling of his […]

Stop Toxic Parents and Grandparents: Shine a Light

Tuesday, February 16th, 2010

Should you tell your children about your toxic parents, their toxic grandparents?  What should you tell them and how?
Imagine that your parents no longer abuse you physically or sexually, but they still demean you, scapegoat you, ignore or scorn you, make nasty, hostile, sarcastic remarks and put-downs, and let you know that you’re not good […]

Stop Boyfriend Bullies before Valentine’s Day

Monday, January 11th, 2010

Imagine that you have a new boyfriend who seems wonderful and you’re looking forward to a romantic Valentine’s Day.  But in your past relationships you were harassed, bullied, controlled and abused.  You finally realize you have a tendency to pick the wrong guys.  What should you look for with this new one and what should […]

Stop Family Bullying Over a Favorite Child

Monday, December 28th, 2009

The holidays may be over for a while but family harassment, bullying and abuse because of a favorite child still needs to be stopped.  Typical situations are where the parents:

Praise, defend and give the best presents or position in the Will to their favorite child.
Put down the rest of the children or designate one as […]

Stop Bullying Boyfriends, Domineering Dates and Controlling Girlfriends

Tuesday, December 15th, 2009

The holidays are a perfect time to recognize and respond effectively to the early warning signs of bullying boyfriends, controlling girlfriends and domineering dates.  Whether these control-freaks are stimulated by holiday pressures and stresses, or they simply seize the opportunity to take charge of multiple events, their subversive, controlling tactics become more apparent during the […]

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