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Wednesday, December 21st, 2011Honest self-evaluation and course correction are key traits of great leaders, managers and employees. For example, suppose you complain that almost everyone in your department or organization is turned off and tuned out. Are they all just a bunch of self-indulgent, narcissistic, lazy slackers or a rotten generation – or have you failed somehow?
Can Fear and Anger Help Stop Bullies?
Sunday, December 18th, 2011Some people think that fear and anger are always bad. Some people think that fear and anger can’t help stop bullies. I disagree.
Don’t let continually cranky co-workers ruin your day
Wednesday, December 14th, 2011Friendly, upbeat, helpful co-workers can ease the burden of difficult, stressful projects. But what can you do about chronically cranky co-workers who make you wish for a snow day or a hurricane? Joe is one of these toxic bullies. He’s the scourge of his office. It’s hard to tell if he’s unaware of his co-workers’ [...]
To Stop Bullies You Must Protest and Say, “NO!”
Monday, December 12th, 2011One of the typical tactics of sly, sneaky, stealthy, manipulative bullies is to work in the dark; to not be seen to be bullies. Then, when a light is shined on their abusive behavior, they claim that they were just having fun; that they were just kidding around; that they didn’t know their target was [...]
Promoting a ‘Drama Queen’ is guaranteed to create chaos
Wednesday, December 7th, 2011‘Drama Queens’ and their male counterparts may look like they’re responding quickly – rallying the troops, taking charge and solving problems. But they cause more chaos at work and create more fallout than the problems they’re reacting to. Don’t be fooled by their high energy and don’t promote them. Drama Queens come in many forms. [...]
Eliminate the High Cost of Low Attitudes at Work
Wednesday, November 30th, 2011Might you have a serious problem in your team, department or whole organization? Are good employees protected from bullies, negative complainers, toxic coworkers, subtle manipulators, nitpicking control freaks, rule-floggers, gossips, passive-aggressive stalkers, energy vampires, meeting disruptors, demanders, meddlers, micromanagers, critics, conflict-avoidant managers, “professional victims,” Drama Queens, or jerks? Are you wasting your time and effort [...]
Should You Stop Bullies if You Feel Vindictive, Resentful?
Sunday, November 27th, 2011Amy was raised to be a nice girl. She had learned not to act if she felt angry or if she sensed any resentful or vindictive feelings within her. When she held back because her motives weren’t pure enough, she became easy prey for her bullying brother.
Well-Meaning, Meddling ‘Peacemakers’ can Disrupt Your Workplace
Wednesday, November 23rd, 2011You want the people on your team to get along with one another and to work well together. But beware of self-appointed middle-men or peace makers. They actually promote whining and complaining, and lead your team to wallow in emotional turmoil and dissention. For example, Carl felt it was his job as a “people person” [...]
How to deal with the smiling, stealth office bully
Wednesday, November 16th, 2011Overt bullies easily get our attention. And we know exactly what we’re up against when they attack. Stealth bullies, who stab you in the back in public with a friendly smile and a laugh designed to disguise their attack as a joke, are much tougher to deal with. In fact, it took a lot of [...]
“Nice Girls” Can’t Stop Bullies
Sunday, November 13th, 2011Almost every one of the women who’ve interviewed me on radio or TV admitted that they were raised to be “nice girls.” Their mothers had taught them that the most important value was to be nice, polite and sweet at all times. They should ignore or rise above bullies; feel sorry for how empty and [...]
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