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Sunday, December 25th, 2011The Harry Potter series has given us many vivid and compelling images. One of my favorites is the “Dementors.” Bullies can act like Dementors. They can torment us and suck the joy out of any wonderful moment or out of our plans for a wonderful future. Some people also have personal, inner Dementors that suck [...]
My staff doesn’t care: What’s the problem? Is it me?
Wednesday, December 21st, 2011Honest self-evaluation and course correction are key traits of great leaders, managers and employees. For example, suppose you complain that almost everyone in your department or organization is turned off and tuned out. Are they all just a bunch of self-indulgent, narcissistic, lazy slackers or a rotten generation – or have you failed somehow?
Can Fear and Anger Help Stop Bullies?
Sunday, December 18th, 2011Some people think that fear and anger are always bad. Some people think that fear and anger can’t help stop bullies. I disagree.
Don’t let continually cranky co-workers ruin your day
Wednesday, December 14th, 2011Friendly, upbeat, helpful co-workers can ease the burden of difficult, stressful projects. But what can you do about chronically cranky co-workers who make you wish for a snow day or a hurricane? Joe is one of these toxic bullies. He’s the scourge of his office. It’s hard to tell if he’s unaware of his co-workers’ [...]
To Stop Bullies You Must Protest and Say, “NO!”
Monday, December 12th, 2011One of the typical tactics of sly, sneaky, stealthy, manipulative bullies is to work in the dark; to not be seen to be bullies. Then, when a light is shined on their abusive behavior, they claim that they were just having fun; that they were just kidding around; that they didn’t know their target was [...]
Promoting a ‘Drama Queen’ is guaranteed to create chaos
Wednesday, December 7th, 2011‘Drama Queens’ and their male counterparts may look like they’re responding quickly – rallying the troops, taking charge and solving problems. But they cause more chaos at work and create more fallout than the problems they’re reacting to. Don’t be fooled by their high energy and don’t promote them. Drama Queens come in many forms. [...]
Can You Resolve Feelings With a Bullying Father Before He Dies?
Sunday, December 4th, 2011Joan’s father had bullied and abused her all her life. He’d yelled, scolded, chastised, taunted and emotionally terrorized her. He’d been manipulative, sneaky and lying. He never admitted anything was his fault. He’d always blamed on her; everything was her fault. He still treats her the same way. He’s a narcissistic, control freak. Joan could [...]
Eliminate the High Cost of Low Attitudes at Work
Wednesday, November 30th, 2011Might you have a serious problem in your team, department or whole organization? Are good employees protected from bullies, negative complainers, toxic coworkers, subtle manipulators, nitpicking control freaks, rule-floggers, gossips, passive-aggressive stalkers, energy vampires, meeting disruptors, demanders, meddlers, micromanagers, critics, conflict-avoidant managers, “professional victims,” Drama Queens, or jerks? Are you wasting your time and effort [...]
Should You Stop Bullies if You Feel Vindictive, Resentful?
Sunday, November 27th, 2011Amy was raised to be a nice girl. She had learned not to act if she felt angry or if she sensed any resentful or vindictive feelings within her. When she held back because her motives weren’t pure enough, she became easy prey for her bullying brother.
Well-Meaning, Meddling ‘Peacemakers’ can Disrupt Your Workplace
Wednesday, November 23rd, 2011You want the people on your team to get along with one another and to work well together. But beware of self-appointed middle-men or peace makers. They actually promote whining and complaining, and lead your team to wallow in emotional turmoil and dissention. For example, Carl felt it was his job as a “people person” [...]
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