Archive for August, 2010

Inept, Unskilled or Over-Protective Mothers Sabotage Daughters

Monday, August 23rd, 2010

Inept, unskilled or over-protective mothers sabotage their daughters. Almost all the women who’ve interviewed me on radio and TV or who’ve called in with comments have said that their mothers told them to rise above mean girls, to be nicer and kinder to bullies, to be nice because the mean girls were being bullied at [...]

Can You Rescue Your Grandchildren from Your Toxic Child?

Monday, August 16th, 2010

Let’s analyze a worst-case scenario for loving, caring parents. You were pretty good parents but one of your children has turned out toxic – not a psychopath but someone who acts like she (or he) hates you. It’s not your fault, but she blames you for not giving her everything she wanted or wants now, [...]

Stop Self-Bullying: A Toxic Child Might Not Be Your Fault

Tuesday, August 10th, 2010

Self-bullies wallow in perfectionism, self-doubt, self-questioning, blame, shame, guilt and negative self-talk.  Real self-bullies run themselves down and beat themselves up in almost every area of life.  But even people who don’t use self-bullying tactics normally will condemn themselves if one of their children turns out incompetent or toxic. A hundred fifty years ago, the [...]

Guilt: Bad, Good; Unhealthy, Healthy; Useless, Effective

Monday, August 2nd, 2010

When is guilt bad; when is guilt good?  When is it a normal, healthy emotion and when is it harmful?  Most people try to answer these questions the wrong way.  And they forgot to consider how bullies try to use our guilt to harass and abuse us.  Most people analyze whether the guilt we feel [...]