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Effective Laws can Stop Cyber Bullying, Harassment and Abuse
By Ben | October 27, 2009
Missouri has responded effectively to cyber bullying via web sites and text messaging; has your state?
After the Lori Drew case in Missouri, in which a MySpace account was used to bully 13-year old Megan Meier, who committed suicide, Missouri legislators passed laws criminalizing cyber-bullying, harassment and abuse, and schools created zero-tolerance policies. School authorities and police are determined to enforce these laws.
Last week, …
Last week, a ninth-grade girl was arrested for creating a cyber bullying web site to attack another teenaged girl. In addition to photos and sexually explicit statements, the online poster stated that the target “would be better off if she just died.”
It’s one thing to say those things in the heat of an angry face-to-face exchange and a very different thing to create a web site that can spread those statements throughout the world.
The ninth-grader has confessed and the case has been turned over to juvenile authorities. The school has also instituted disciplinary action.
Lori Drew got off because previous statutes were “constitutionally vague” and not specifically directed at cyber bullies.
The law went into effect August 2008 and by December Missouri prosecutors had filed charges against seven people accused of violating the statute. Hopefully, the new laws are written well.
Although we all want to protect free speech, I think the more important value here is tightening laws in order to protect kids from vicious, false and often anonymous attacks by other disgruntled kids or adults.
There will always be people in angry spite-fights with each other. And every society draws boundaries about what can be said or done, privately and publically, in these fights. By trial and error, we’re drawing those lines now concerning the use of new media like cyber space and text messaging.
Part of the message to parents is to check on our children. Are they engaged in cyber bullying? Are they being harassed and abused by cyber bullies? Do you know how to find out? Do you know how to respond most effectively?
Good for the Missouri’s legislators, school officials and police who are spearheading this effort. Good for the parents who took effective action.
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January 9th, 2010 at 5:03 am
i am so stress because of gossip. i have five kids all from my husband i had never have another man in my life, but there is this man who helped me and my child when i involved in a car crash. now this lady gossip about me that one of my children is his. she even point to other people which child is i am so stress i need help i really hated my self because i never had any other man in my life only my husband.i can alaw DNA test i just need justice
thanks
January 11th, 2010 at 10:31 pm
Hi Sophia,
Don’t let a jerk make you hate yourself. Love yourself; you’ve done nothing wrong.
Do something about the lady gossip. Shine a light on her nastiness. Talk to the people involved. Label the gossip in a way that cuts her down. You don’t have to prove anything, just go after her character.
What’s her interest? Is she just jealous? Does she want your ex? Does she think she’s superior and virtuous? Use that to label her: “Oh, she’s just a vicious gossip,” or “She’s just a jealous, “mean girl,” or “… You wouldn’t believe anything said by someone like that.”
Anyone who believes her isn’t a friend isn’t worthy of you. Cut them out of your life and fill it with people who respect you and your character.
What are the other consequences in your city, your church or wherever she’s gossiping about you?
See the case study of Mona dealing with a nasty person in “How to Stop Bullies in Their Tracks,” available on this web site.
Best wishes,
Ben
February 9th, 2011 at 1:35 pm
hey ppl plzz dnt hurt yourselfs because of that i was in a situation were i tried to comment suicide bcause of stuff that was going on at home and mostly cause i couldnt go to skool and not get picked on!!!!
thats like the worst thing to do btw im in the 8th grade so now i know what it feels like ! dnt worrie u are not alone call someone yhu can talk to that u really trust and p.s its ok to crie but dnt crie in front of everyone if want to talk comment back on here and i will give yhu my email email me at …. juss comment back on here ok
February 14th, 2011 at 10:16 pm
Hi Moeshay,
Good for you for hanging in. Never give up; never, never, never.
Sounds like all you can do is keep a flame burning in your heart and plan to get away. Leave them behind and never look back.
Get a skill if you can so you can make some money and get independent. Learn and grab onto hope.
Be stronger than whatever torments you. No matter how many times you’re knocked down; get up one time more.
You can do it.
Best wishes,
Ben
December 12th, 2011 at 4:59 pm
[...] At school, if we and our children don’t protest loudly, clearly and in writing to teachers, principals and district administrators, bullies can excuse and justify their behavior by claiming they didn’t know we thought of their actions as bullying. So, of course, they felt free to continue bullying. And we’ll have no defense. This goes for physical, mental, emotional and cyber-bullying. [...]