Archive for August, 2009

Stop School Bullies: The Number One Risk Factor is Well-Meaning Parents

Monday, August 24th, 2009

Current statistics show that bullying is prevalent – over 50% of kids report being bullied or observing bullying.  Bullying by girls is just as prevalent as by boys (although they often use different tactics) and bullying in “good” neighborhoods is just as prevalent as in “bad” ones.
Most parents want to understand why bullies bully, “Is […]

Appeasement Won’t Stop Real-World Bullies

Friday, August 14th, 2009

Some people believe fervently, passionately and whole-heartedly that if you love bullies, if you give them what they want, if you’re kind enough, then you’ll melt their hearts, they’ll come to their senses and they’ll stop bullying.  Sometimes, rarely, that does work.
But the wisdom of both history and the world’s great literature tells you that […]

The Golden Rule Doesn’t Stop Real-World Bullies

Monday, August 3rd, 2009

In his article in the Costco Connections, “Stop Hassling Me: Breaking the Cycle of Bullying,” Steve Fisher quotes Psychologist Izzy Kalman as saying:

“School anti-bullying programs don’t work.”
“I hate referring to kids as bullies.”
“Be nice to kids when they’re mean to you and before long they will stop being mean.  This is known as the Golden […]