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Parenting Bully-Proof Kids: Stop School Bullies in Their Tracks
By Ben | December 1, 2008
My new soft cover book, “Parenting Bully-Proof Kids: Stop School Bullies in Their Tracks,” is ready to ship. It’s in plenty of time to help you handle the bullies you face during the holiday season and to give as presents to those in need. Please see the details, including the Table of Contents and questions for reading groups, on the products and resources page.
“Parenting Bully-Proof Kids: Stop School Bullies in Their Tracks” is a companion to “How to Stop Bullies in Their Tracks.” It shows you how to guide your children and teenagers to live a bully-free life.
Your children and teens will probably face or witness:
* Physical violence, verbal abuse and emotional intimidation.
* Anger, hate, harassment and hazing.
* Name-calling, put-downs, scorn, and ostracism.
* Two-faced friends and anonymous cyber-bullies.
* Peer pressure and destructive media influences.
Good parenting requires you to teach them how to use other tactics and techniques to stop bullies in their tracks, as well as to maintain their independence, confidence and self-esteem, and to promote their emotional development. That’s necessary preparation for them to succeed in the adult world at work and in personal relationships – e.g., with husbands, wives, partners, brothers, sisters, relatives, friends and neighbors.
Six case studies will teach you how to help them deal with:
* Taunting, teasing and fighting.
* A venomous Queen Bee.
* Emotional blackmail.
* A manipulative control-freak who pretends to be a friend.
* School administrators.
* The most important decision for teenagers.
* Self-bullying.
Some of the other sections are:
* What to do when Peaceful Methods aren’t Effective.
* Tactics That Don’t Work.
* Success Guidelines and Tactics.
* Methods to Deal with Teasing.
* Recognizing if Someone is a True Friend.
* A Teenager who Won’t Try Hard at School.
~~~ “Create an isle of song in a sea of shouts.” Rabindranath Tagore ~~~
We’ll make it easy for you to get copies for everyone on your gift list by shipping directly to them. Simply order the number of copies you want and immediately send me an e-mail with the addresses of each of your lucky friends.
Of course, you can also get the personal coaching you need for your specific situation.
Best wishes for a joyous, bully-free life,
Ben
Topics: Bullies at School, Coaching, Consulting, parenting, Parenting Bully-Proof Kids Book, Stop Bullies Book, Stop Bullies CD | 14 Comments »
December 1st, 2008 at 7:13 pm
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December 2nd, 2008 at 8:45 am
Thanks for citing my blog post.
I often find that people trying to quit smoking have problems with inner bullies (self-bullying). You know, those rotten inner voices that are hyper-critical, predict failure and run you down so much that you hardly have the strength to do what you need.
The other problem is stealthy bullies (so-called “friends”) who sabotage your best efforts.
I coach folks who want to end both kinds of bullying.
Best wishes,
Ben
December 10th, 2008 at 1:22 pm
Bullying is a pain in brain! I have four sons and have experienced my share of bullies inside and outside the home.
I have done my best to brand (okay…instill) the Golden Rule in my children. But, not all children are so lucky.
Resources like “Parenting Bully-Proof Kids” are essential to parents seeking answers to current problems. But, what about teaching kids at an early age to be self assertive and give them the confidence to stand up for their rights.
I was lucky enough that my oldest son’s 2nd grade teacher took a portion of each day to teach life skills. The worksheets he brought home included parental interaction and were fun. Soon the other three were clamoring to get in on the action. It was a great experience for everyone and has paid off. All my sons are well adjusted, happy, and healthy.
Finding parenting tools that can involve your children is key. In case you’re wondering, the life skills program we are so wild about is “The Million Dollar Machine” Life Skills Enrichment Program. You can get it on Amazon.com or Lifeskills4kids.com.
With Warmest Regards,
Kathi
December 11th, 2008 at 8:51 pm
Thanks for the feedback and recommendation of the life skills program.
We teach our children from day one or even before. One of the key lessons they can learn from us is, “Don’t freak our and don’t be defeated by whatever happens. Develop fortitude, grit and resilience.” They are born with those qualities (infants do fight for life – air and food). Strengthen them. See my post about this: Post #12 – Teach children and teens to be resilient; don’t be defeated by disappointment, hostility, abuse, trauma or bullies
http://www.bulliesbegoneblog.com/2008/02/17/teach-children-and-teens-to-be-resilient-don%e2%80%99t-be-defeated-by-disappointment-hostility-abuse-trauma-or-bullies/
Again, that’s learned from day one. We are models for them whether we want to be or not, whether they choose to do what we say or what we do or the opposite. In fact, that thought can bring out our best; “What do I want to be a model of?” That thought helped me step up when I felt too tired to be at my best.
The Golden Rule is great but you sound like you also know that there are many interpretations that can lead people to be weaklings, pushovers and martyrs. I suspect you know this, because you talk about your children being confident and self-assertive. Please see the post about this: Post #17 – How to correct your children and say “No” to them
http://www.bulliesbegoneblog.com/2008/03/09/how-to-correct-your-children-and-say-no-to-them/
Best wishes,
Ben
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